Innocently Speaking.com

Okay I know what I said about dating and love for the not so smart in my post 8 STRATEGIES FOR THE STUPID TO BE SUCCESSFUL; but you’ll agree with me that people are just so stubborn that no matter how much you try to make them see reason they simply wouldn’t .

There is always something lying to them that they are not as stupid as they really are, and so they go ahead and behave dangerously and many times, get hurt.

But because we love them and wish them whatever happiness they can get I thought we might just give a few tips to minimise the damage they are most likely going to be doing themselves, dating.

                                                                                image courtesy kutching

1. Look exactly like you

You don’t need a makeover or anything like that except you are courting disaster. First impression should only mean sustainable impression to you. You are definitely going to be found out for what you really are sooner than later so just show up like the real you and hope for the best.

2. Do not go playing hard to get

For those of you still a little delusional who would want to relieve scenes from their favourite soap operas I will say you should save it. Many things can come out of this one date and you want to grab everything good that presents itself. If he or she shows genuine (well I don’t know how you will know that) interest in you, go for it.

3. Better always say your mind

Make sure you pour out your soul to your date. If you intend for this to be your last bus stop, say so while you have the opportunity. You never can tell what impression your date leaves with. Even The smart people will tell you that even when they are at their best they still find out that a first date never guarantees a second.

4. Check your body language

We know you cannot hide your intent for too long and I don’t even recommend it, but for heaven sakes whatever you are going to display keep it verbal. If your hormones are on an all time high going in for this date I will suggest you postpone it because we cannot trust you not to make moves that can be costly. Chances are that your date will not find you out soon enough and we will rather you are not perceived to be what you are not. So sit straight and keep your hands down.

5. Avoid talking about yourself

We just want to see how we can postpone the evil day the much we can. If you go blabbing about yourself you will reveal enough to spoil whatever little chance you had of getting somewhere with this date. Instead, talk about your dreams, your fantasies, you future together, but never directly about YOU.

6. Be shy

There is something cool about shyness which is perfect for you. Your date will believe you are just innocent and even naive whereas you are so stupid that he or she will be scaling the fence if they had an idea.

7. Say yes to “coffee”

This should be your moment. You get to his or her door and the invitation comes out. Get in there and await your moment. Your date makes a move and you go in for the kill. Remember, nothing guarantees a tomorrow for the two of you and a nicely brewed “coffee” might just give you a helping hand.